Why won’t he ask me to marry him? How can I get him to marry me?


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You may be getting to the age when you feel ready for marriage or perhaps your family are putting pressure to get married. Everyone has their own reasons and objectives for marriage and some are more genuine than others.

If you have been with someone for more than three years some girls maybe thinking about having a baby soon or even think about having a baby in the hope that their partner asks them to get married.  Both things kind of go hand in hand have you noticed that many girls have the baby and then the guys ask you to marry?!

The men that have not mentioned marriage 1.5 years into the relationship are not ready or they have not found the correct person I think you should be ready by this time.  Its interesting I think anyone getting married before moving in together and before the 1.5 years is a bit too soon. However once you have lived together and get to know each other properly marriage should be a nice and natural step.

Marriage should not feel scary but you do need to be mentally prepared for it mostly men will tell you that they need to get ready to be married and that is fine and normal. Long long engagements are pointless just get on with it.

You should bring up the subject of marriage once you have lived together and are getting on well you need to know what the other person wants from life and is that in line with what you want?

If you are scared you will push them away then wait until the time feels right you can start off with asking them their views on marriage and take it from there.

How to get him to Marry you

  • Nail out any issues you have with each other and the relationship before you start to discuss the topic of marriage. Wait until you think your relationship is in a good place and start talking about the future
  • Try and keep the romance and quality you and him time going you need to be in a good place together
  • Ask questions about his views on marriage to see what he feels like about the topic and subject and express how you feel about it
  • Introduce him to your friends and family before bringing up the topic of marriage

Let me know how it goes DD XOXOX

 

 

 

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How to get a second date! A quick guide to winning a first date!


Your hands may be sweaty and you may blank out on conversation topics — just take a deep breath, this is only the first date. I always say to my friends keep the first date short you can and are allowed to meet the person even for just one hour long on the first date

1)  Looks

Its all about the first impression on a first date unfortunately as they say first impressions really do count when you first meet someone. Here are a few hints and tips for both men and women

And although you should never judge a book by its cover, Whitmore says people will make judgement calls about your character and personality based on your initial encounter.

Girls – Don’t look like you are trying too hard but also make enough effort  men will find it attractive if you  look effortlessly good so keep the makeup natural.

Ladies here are some examples of some effortless looks for a first date the last photo is more for an evening date but they are all sending out the correct signals to that guy you like!

Guys – You should do your hair wear a smart yet casual top and the shoes will be judged so make sure they are not looking scruffy, oh yeah and smell good!

Guys this is also a smart casual look that makes a good first impression I have included the hat and trainers look to show you can make the casual look trendy and smart ( cool)

2) Good Time Keeping

When you show up on time it highlights that you are responsible and makes a good first impression, however being early is a bit too keen remember this is not a job interview it’s a date so be on time but don’t linger around early or you may look desperate.

3) Do some research before you actually go to meet them find out what is happening in the news look into the other person’s job , hobbies and family life so that you have good substantial stuff to talk about. They may ask you what you think about x news topic and you want to look prepared!

4) Have a story in the back of your mind you can tell them make it funny and something that happened recently to warm up the conversation. It is always good to have these ready incase there are some silent moments of awkwardness

5) Offer to get a drink both people should get a drink each on the first date otherwise he / she will be telling their friends you were a bit tight trust me! I hear this all the time even if the guy is generous. Also don’t get drunk on your first date you may live to regret this even if you need some courage! NO NO!

6)Huffington post says …

A good conversation is like a tennis match. It only works when you hit the ball in the other person’s court,” Whitmore says. Try to focus more on your date and less on yourself —you’ll impress your date if you show you’re fully engaged, listen, and ask pertinent questions, she adds. This type of attentive listening builds trust and almost always guarantees a second date.

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7) don’t mention the Ex or getting divorced or anything negative on the first date otherwise he will think you are so not over it!

8) Focus on the positives of life not how bad your job is or how bad the weather is but be positive and happy. Remember not to be fake I hate those girls that come across too friendly or too nice be natural!

9) End the date gracefully even if you don’t want to see them again be nice and tell them the things you enjoyed with them.  Don’t mention meeting again word it like look forward to catching up soon or let’s talk soon take care !

DD XOXOX

 

Angelina Jolie files for divorce from Brad Pitt


Angelina Jolie files for divorce from Brad Pitt

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Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are to divorce after two years of marriage.

TMZ, the US showbusiness website, claimed Jolie has filed papers citing “irreconcilable differences”.

A legal representative for the actress confirmed she has filed papers to dissolve the marriage.

“This decision was made for the health of the family. She will not be commenting, and asks that the family be given its privacy at this time,” attorney Robert Offer said in a statement.

The couple have been together since 2005, and married in 2012, and have six children.

TMZ claimed Jolie has requested physical custody of the children and that September 15, 2016 was the date of separation.

Just last year, Jolie told the Telegraph the couple would “stick together whatever comes” but admitted: ““Brad and I have our issues”.

She added: “To be clear: we have fights and problems like any other couple. We have days when we drive each other absolutely mad and want space.”

Jolie and Pitt have been one of the most scrutinised celebrity couples of recent years, since rumours the actor left his former partner Jennifer Aniston during the filming of Mr and Mrs Smith.

 

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/09/20/angelina-jolie-and-brad-pitt-to-divorce/

Signs that show you’re in a committed relationship


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The Daily Mail  newspaper says..

Planning a holiday, driving each others’ cars and having a key to your partner’s flat are all signs a relationship has got serious, a new survey reveals.

Researchers quizzed 2,000 people to reveal the top 50 things which indicate a couple are past the ‘seeing each other’ phase.

Posting a ‘loved-up’ photo on Facebook, changing your status to ‘in a relationship’ and being introduced to wider friendships circles also show couples are the ‘real deal.’

It’s also proven that the girls are happy to go out without makeup on and dressing up is also no longer such a big deal as you have started to feel more comfortable and relaxed. The guy has started to like you as a whole and is less focused on your physical appearance. However not to say you should let yourself go now but you should be more relaxed.

Around the six month to one year mark you should be talking about moving in together so that you get to know each other properly. Some people say bound on religious purposes that they only want to move in together once they are married. Well this is a serious risk as you really only know someone once you get married to start off with.

Meeting your partner’s parents and friends is also important as you become more serious with each other and becoming the other person’s plus one on invites and christmas events and cards.

The study also shows two in 10 people knew their current relationship was serious after they planned a holiday together, while 43 per cent said the words ‘I love you’ and the same percentage discussed moving in together.

Indeed two-thirds of people polled and in a relationship claimed they felt their first holiday together was a real milestone and demonstrated how committed they were to each other.

Someone I know said his mortgage means more than a marriage and kids he is well committed now that they have a house together. I would say that this is not very romantic but that is how some people see commitment these days. What do you think?

Another wise friend said to me commitment is when you put your partner before yourself and yourself after your partner then you know you are committed.

It’s obvious that commitment means something different to each couple and individual, it is very important that you have the correct level of commitment in your relationship that you feel happy with. For example if you have a mis-matched level of commitment in a relationship then this will cause big issues. If one person wants marriage and kids and the other person does not want it then this is a major mis-match.

Watch out girls after nagging a guy for ages they suddenly say they have changed their mind about something like marriage or kids I would be dubious, believe it when you see it. Many men just drag things out to keep you quiet or happy! Don’t be a victim that it becomes too late and you can no longer have the things you want. Or you are too old to move on!

Love DD XOX

Dear love ….ps I love you


Dear love

I wasn’t a strong believer in love before I met you, perhaps it’s because I have never been in love before. Love to me is special, meaningful and means the world to me. However it’s difficult and takes hard work and care maybe even nurturing so it grows and stays happy.
Meeting the one you love only happens one in a million times, by this I mean someone you care unconditionally for and connect with in so many levels.

It’s fear that made us argue and the unknown that made me snap at you. I know now that you are the best part of me and I’m the best part of you and together we are at our best.

Love makes you weak as when you are apart you become half a person, half a heart and half of happiness. Together we can achieve so much and I believe we can change the world in our own way.

I think we met and we became best friends. Our friendship turned into unconditional love and then one day we got married.
I’m creative and messy and life is one big ball of hecticness. Without you I’d be at parties and probably would have met someone boring.

You’re organised, loving and your heart is made of gold. You love my cooking, food makes you very happy.
Now we get ready to become parents and we can make our mistakes together in harmony. Love is enough for us. Our children will be the best part of us I hope. Let’s hold hands and skip towards our next journey.